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Secret Santa

Message your giftee or your Santa anonymously

Ask the person you drew a question without giving yourself away, or write back to your own Santa. Only the two of you can read it, not even the organizer.

Once names are drawn, you can ask the person you're buying for a question, like their size or whether they drink coffee, without them finding out it's you. Whoever drew your name can write to you the same way, and you can reply.

Steps

  1. Tap the name at the top of Home and pick your group under Secret Santa.
  2. Scroll to Messages.
  3. Tap Ask [name] a question to write to the person you drew, or Message your Santa to write to whoever drew you.
  4. Type your message and tap Send.
A Secret Santa conversation: Sam asks Priya about tea and glove size, and Priya answers
A Secret Santa conversation: Sam asks Priya about tea and glove size, and Priya answers

Getting replies

When a new message arrives, the bell shows Your Secret Santa sent you a message or [name] replied to you, and the thread gets a red number. Tap either one to open the conversation.

If you don't open it within a few minutes, Wishpile also emails you. A quick back-and-forth comes as one email, and you get at most one an hour per conversation.

Good to know

  • Your giftee sees your messages as from Your Santa, never your name. Your own Santa stays anonymous to you the same way.
  • Only the two of you can read a conversation. The organizer can't, and neither can anyone else in the group.
  • If the organizer resets the draw, everyone gets a new match and every conversation is cleared.
  • Messages can be up to 1000 characters.
  • To stop the emails, switch off Group and Secret Santa emails in your Profile. The bell keeps working either way.

Still stuck?

Ask Wishpile and get an answer in seconds, or email support@wishpile.com and a real person will get back to you. Quick answers live in the FAQ.

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